I know it’s been awhile since my
last post. I haven’t avoided them intentionally, by any means, I’ve simply not
had time to write.
I want to
talk about signs and coincidences. What do the things you have in common with
someone really mean? As always, you can trust that I don’t know everything. In
fact, I don’t even know a whole lot. Bear with me as I hash through this a
little bit. Give me your input, too.
out that the object of your romantic interest grew up with the same favorite
kids T.V. show- You and your sweetheart wear the same size shoes- You both eat
cheese on your potato chips- It’s a sign! You’re destined for each other! Right? How much stock do you put in the
things that you have in common with someone? What does it mean when you and the
person you like share a lot of interests and favorites, dislikes and tastes,
events and thoughts and words?
several of these things come up over the last…little while. My lady-friend and
I have come across many things that we share. One of the first that comes to
mind is that we both have always loved the constellation Orion. We both favor
the color green. Both of us typically have a particularly difficult time with
Wednesdays. We’ve shared very similar musical tastes, we’ve said the same thing
at the same time (Jinx!!). Wind-chimes, Chris Rice, 26, Florida-’02, Love Languages, and many
coincidence -an event
that might have been arranged although it was really accidental.
Here is the
bottom line with what I think of these things, and I really believe this: I
think that coincidences and things you have in common with someone don’t mean
that you are a “perfect match” or that you’re “made for each other”. It’s not
even going to make your relationship any easier (except maybe sometimes not
having to discuss what restaurant to eat at because you both love Tex-Mex). I
believe that these “signs” are in our lives for us to smile about. Don’t get me
wrong, this is nothing to sneeze at. We should relish the things that God puts
in our lives that are a joy and a pleasure. What I’m saying is that decisions
and relationships cannot be built on coincidences. You have to work at knowing
someone and communicating well with them, and most importantly, first seeking God’s will and His heart for
you and for the other person.
about relationships (and life, in general) sort of like buildings. You must
have a strong foundation. This must be Christ. Your building must be
constructed with materials that will last. (Reference:
1 Corinthians 3:10-15). You want to build the majority of your structure
using materials like gold, silver, and costly stones. When you build with wood,
hay, and stubble, it is burned up in the fire, and it doesn’t last. Honestly, I
see “signs” sort of like very pretty wallpaper. It would be foolish to live in
a building with walls that are made only of paper, but the pretty patterns and
designs are good to look at and smile about. It makes you feel good. This
really is a good thing. It’s just not a substantial thing, in the structural
I have a
lot to smile about with my Special Someone, and I pray you have much to smile
about too. I’m praying that God helps me build wisely on the Foundation that is
laid, and I pray the same for you.